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Sample Thank You Notes and Etiquette
Congratulations on doing the right thing by even preparing to write this note in the first place. Now don't blow it. Remember a few simple rules of etiquette, and check the sample thank you notes for additional guidance: If Aunt Tina gives you a gift at your wedding shower and then also gives you one on your wedding day, send her an individual thank you note for each gift. It doesn't matter how close together you received the gifts-- write two notes. They should always be handwritten. There are some cases where email is acceptable, but never type an email on your computer, print, and send via mail. If it is going in the real mail, it should have your handwriting. And use dark blue or black ink over colored ink. It is more easily readable and you are probably not a 10-year-old girl. It's a good habit to send your thank you notes as soon as you get your gift. It's easier to think of things to say when the gift is fresh in your mind and it's nice for the giver to hear it arrived safely as soon as possible. But officially:
Parents should write on their children's behalf but encourage their participation. You can ask your 3-year-old why he likes his new truck and he might say, "I like the fire stickers", which gives you something original and personal to add to the note. You can also let children add stickers or draw a picture on the other half of the card. More on that here. Treat the same as a gift, but standard etiquette dictates you do not mention the exact amount. More on this here. Also, if you have a particular item you intend to buy with the money, you can include that, such as "I have been craving a massage but would never treat myself to such an extravagance. But thanks to your gift, I have an appointment for next week!" However, make sure the item you say you'll purchase is a gift for the true recipient. For example, the previous example with the massage would not have been appropriate if the money had been meant for you and your spouse. Personalize it. Starting your note with generic statements like "Thank you for the gift" are too impersonal. Even a brief description warms it up like, "Thank you for the fuzzy blue sweater." What if you don't like the gift? Well it really is the thought that counts. Remind yourself that the giver spent time and money selecting the gift, and that is why they deserve thanks. Thank you notes should be addressed to whomever signed your gift card. If your card was signed by Mrs. Crumb, write to her but mention the rest of the family if you know them, such as "Please send my best to Todd and the kids." Apparently at some weddings, the bride and groom have "thank you for coming" printed on many pieces of paper, and guests are to pick one up on their way out, and that is supposed to serve as their thank you note. I do not recommend this. Yes it's a ton of work to handwrite personal notes to each guest, but consider how much work it was for your guests to pick out and pay for your gift and travel to your wedding. Return from Sample Thank You Notes and Etiquette to Home
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Alas, just writing a thank you note isn't guaranteed to demonstrate your good breeding or make you part of society. There are rules of etiquette you must follow or run the risk of being seen as even ruder than the person who writes no note at all. 
